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My Friend is Robbed in Nigeria

Our good friend and co-worker Danny McCain and his family were robbed in their house at gun point in Jos, Nigeria this week.  I have had fellowship at his house.  I hope you can take the time to read, pray and be inspired.  Workers around the world need our prayers!  Danny, a fellow NT guy and PhD, has impacted tens of thousands in Africa in speaking, AIDs ministry, writing, and teaching over 20 years.  He is a personal hero to me.  Much love and peace and prayers to you and your family Danny!

Danny is living out joy in hard times in an amazing way.  Putting the faithfullness and provision of God above the attack and fear of man.

Read to the end and be inspired with God's provision!  You can give to replace stolen items at the address below.

From Dr. McCain (shared with permission):

24 May 2009
Friends.
   Greetings from Jos.
   We are sad to have to have to report to you that armed robberies came to our house last night (Saturday evening, 23 Mary 2009)..
    They entered the house about 9:15 in the evening, while we were returning from a party for 14 American exchange students that we had been attending directly across the street from us. There was no electricity at the time so they had hidden in the shadows until we opened the door.
   We had a full house at the time, including Carmen, Tassneem and of course Katrina Korb. In addition, two neighbor girls had helped to carry chairs back to our house and were with us during the robbery. There was somewhere between 5 and 7 of the armed robbers.
   We are grateful that no one was seriously injured.
   After some of the robbers had been in the house about 12 minutes, one of the ones outside spotted movement at the end of our rode and fired his gun at that movement. That movement happened to be our driver Thomas who was with two soldiers. One of the soldiers responded with a burst of automatic AK-47 gunfire. The robbers left immediately and escaped to the back of our house.
   Our losses were less this time. They got Katrina's laptop but left behind at least six more laptops. They got four mobile telephones, including both of mine. And they got about $200 in American currency and about $1000 in local currency. Since our earlier robbery two and a half years ago, we do not keep much money in the house but the robbers came on the day Mary had collected a good bit of money for the wheelchair fund.
  At about the ten minute mark, they started demanding the key to my jeep. However, honestly, I could not find it. They thought I was just delaying but I honestly could not find it. Katrina was sitting on the floor near where I was looking for the keys. She finally said, "'Take my car. It is better than the Jeep anyway." The next day when the daylight came, the key was right near the place I had been looking. Fortunately, the event ended before they could take any of our vehicles.
  Please be assured that we are OK. All of my family members are in good spirits. Katrina is doing very well as well. She has gone through the Jos crisis and now has passed through an armed robbery. She is truly a baptized IICS professor now--baptized by violence. We do not live in fear of these people. We have made a conscience decision that we will not allow the efforts of a few low-life losers to interrupt that joy of the Lord in our lives.
   We will write more later. However, continue praying. Pray for our ongoing protection and that of our colleagues. Pray for peace in the hearts of all those who were touched by this incident, including the 14 American exchange students, most of which were across the road when this incident took place. Pray that these men will be caught and that justice will prevail. Pray that God will help Nigeria to get beyond the circumstances that cause such things.
   God bless.
Grace and Peace!
Danny McCain

25 May 2009
Friends.
   Greetings from Jos.
   I want to write you a note to assure that we are all fine after the robbery on Saturday night. We have received such an outpouring of love and support from our friends here in Nigeria. We now have four soldiers who are guarding my house. I think that is probably enough. Today all the principal officers of the university came to see us including the vice chancellor (like the president), the two deputy vice chancellors, the registrar and the bursar (the chief financial officer).
   God has helped us so much that we have been able to laugh a lot about the incident and I must confess that there have been a few tears shed as well. The emotions go up and down but we have decided that if you have to experience an armed robbery, we will take this one. There were so many ways this could have been worse.
   I have said many times that if you can see little indications that God was obviously with you in a time of trouble, then that in itself helps you get through these problems. Last time, God intervened in a special way to save Mary's computer which was a special blessing from God for her. There have also been several such indicators during this incident.

1. My neighbor who heard the initial gunshot and called the soldiers to come and help us had only gotten the telephone number of the soldiers that same day, just a few hours before the robbery.

2. The last thing the robbers asked for was the key to my Jeep (Hyundai Galloper). I had put on Nigerian attire before the incident and the key was still upstairs in my regular trouser pockets. When I looked for the second key, I could not find it. I looked for at least a minute and finally dumped out all of the keys on the table to search for them. I never did find it. The next morning, Katrina found the key right where I had been looking. My inability to find the key saved my jeep. Surely that was the hand of the Lord.

3. There were dozens of valuable things that the thieves overlooked, including at least six laptop computers, cameras and so many other valuable things.

4. Perhaps the most remarkable thing about this to me was the way the Lord prepared me for it. For a little over ten years I have been slowly reading through the Bible in my own personal quiet time. And I have been using this time to take many notes on my personal study of the Bible. I have written close to 4000 pages of notes during these years. For the last several days, I have been reading and meditating on the passage in 2 Corinthians 6:1-9. And on that Saturday morning, I spent all of my time focusing on verse 8. I am going to record below the verses and then part of the observations that I jotted down 14 hours before this robbery occured.

Rather, as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way: in great endurance; in troubles, hardships and distresses; 5 in beatings, imprisonments and riots; in hard work, sleepless nights and hunger; 6 in purity, understanding, patience and kindness; in the Holy Spirit and in sincere love; 7 in truthful speech and in the power of God; with weapons of righteousness in the right hand and in the left; 8 through glory and dishonor, bad report and good report; genuine, yet regarded as impostors; 9 known, yet regarded as unknown; dying, and yet we live on; beaten, and yet not killed; 10 sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; poor, yet making many rich; having nothing, and yet possessing everything.

The following were part of my written thoughts on the morning of the robbery.

“Dying, yet Alive.”

Paul says specifically “dying, and yet we live on.” I do not think that Paul was actually dying but he was in danger of dying. He was facing dying on a somewhat regular basis. Those who are really aggressive in their ministries to promote the gospel will face death more than others, if they are really on the front line.

I do not believe that I face death from people who are deliberately trying to kill me. However, I do recognize that I face death every time I get out on the highways. I am sure that the biggest threat that I face is injury or death on the highways. Of course, there is always the danger of some tropical disease or death from armed robbery or death from some other act of violence. Certainly we all live in mortal bodies that will someday die either from natural causes or a premature death.

However, at this time I am very alive and well and I am grateful to God for sparing me. My cousin, Ronnie Reed, who is just about my age is gone. Some of our classmates and friends who are my age, have left this world over the years. So I am grateful to God for sparing my life to the age of 58 and giving me so many wonderful opportunities to do things and to serve God in such a unique manner.

“Beaten and yet not killed”

Paul was obviously beaten several times. He was beaten in Lystra and he was beaten in Philippi. He was also apparently beaten in Jerusalem. Yet, he survived and continued his ministry.

Lord, I have never been beaten for the sake of the gospel. That is not necessarily something that I want to experience. I would just as soon enjoy the respect of people and continue to be a blessing to believers. It is much more unlikely that a person involved in discipleship, like myself, will be beaten than someone who is involved in raw evangelism. Those kinds of person are right out there on the front line, attacking the devil’s territory so there are certainly more likely to be attacked and beaten.

Lord, you have taken good care of me over the years for which I am thankful. I pray that you will continue to protect my health and my body. Spare me from beatings if possible and help me to enjoy a long life so that I can continue to serve you.

Thank you Lord, for all things. Amen.

We have really appreciated your emails and phone calls that assure us of your prayers. Please continue to pray for us. We will continue to keep you updated.

Grace and Peace!
Danny

PS: After getting about 10 hours of electricity for the past week, we have had almost constant electricity for the last 30 hours or so. That certainly has a way of making you feel more secure.

If anyone wants to make a contribution toward helping us recover, they can send it to International Institute for Christian Studies, P. O. Box 12147, Overland Park, KS 66282-2147. Please indicate that this is for McCain Robbery.

Obedience and feeling ... good, bad, indifferent.

"If you love Me you will do what I command ... My command is this: love one another." John 14 & 15.  "If your child comes to you disobedient, troubled, irritating ... love him/her; if a muslim walks into your church, love him/her ... " PastorCarl Buffington, New Covenant Church.  "The least remembered of the 10 Commandments is 'Honor your mother and father'", Dennis Rainey, Real Family Life.

So what does it mean to be obedient, to honor, to love?  To follow "my Father's commands"?  Listen to that 'nudge' and follow through...follow directions...do what my spouse asks in a timely manner...do not lie, ever...do not cheat, ever. Be kind to that irritating person or love that irritating person? And what about the 'white lies' or the sarcastic, goofing around kind of cheating or the bending of the rules like '7 miles over the speed limit is okay'?

Obedience is no easy task ... simple maybe, but not easy. Since 2006, I have felt compelled to start a skate boarding minisry in honor and rememberance of our son Luke.  For those of you who do not know, Luke died suddenly in 2005 from Ehlers Danlos (VEDS). Luke was a skater, I was a fearful "sk8 mom" and was blessed when a Christian Skate DVD fell into my hands. We were successful in teaching Luke about being a light in a dark world; we trust that Luke is skating with Jesus eternally.

I do not look like a skater, nor does my husband.  I have picked up a few words here and there like 'sweet', 'sick', 'dude' (still works), 'gnarly' (yep, that word is still around), and 'cool' (of course).  But only a few, I do not dress like a skater, and sometimes all the tatoos find me staring too long at an arm or leg.  And yet, I have heard from God that we are to "love even these"...I have heard to "build a fortress (community)to protect our youth (skaters)" ... obedience, honor, love. 

So for over 3 years, we have been trying to build something to love and protect.  There have been many days where I have questioned this command, I have ignored the stuff I was being nudged about or have pushed hard to do it my way and not wait for God to provide the way. I have been discouraged, ignored, laughed at (bad feelings) ... I have ignored, put on the back burner, 'not now'-ed (indifferent feelings) ... and I have been encouraged, supported, built up, helped (good feelings).

Yesterday we successfully had our first "free sk8" ... we provided free everything for any skater that showed up.  Admission to the skate park, free hot dogs, chips, water, energy drinks, gatorade, t-shirts, decks, stickers ... really, not one thing did we charge for ... we just smiled, shown brightly, and gave a day of fun. And this morning, filled with mixed up feelings, I am preparing for a meeting with our team and board to discuss, pray about and discern 'just how often can we do this?'

Being obedient does not always feel good.  Being obedient often stinks. Especially while we are making the decision to be obedient ... and yet, "if you love me, do as my Father commands".  "Feel" is about dealing with good and bad feelings while following His commands. It is about learning to use our emotions (good or bad) to become a light in our dark world. To make our dark world a loving and beautiful place for others...to be in relationship with others, to love one another.  So when have you struggled with obedience and feelings, good, bad or indifferent?

Bad Day Blog

This was an unusual morning for me – pack lunches, take kids to school through really bad construction traffic where we were held up for :20 as they grind down the road bed for repaving, try to help Laura who is sick in bed.  Get home, and there are still dishes from last night.  Why are there dishes from last night?

There are several answers to that question.  Laura came home cooked dinner, wonderful marinated chicken for me to grill and broccoli casserole …  and promptly got sick.  She is now up in bed, OK?  I am giving Evan his spelling test, grilling chicken, having the kids set the table outside as it such a beautiful day.  Chicken was done and I had the casserole in my hands being held by the small handles through pot-holders.  The thought crossed my mind, “I should have Cailin get the door open for me.”  I promptly decided I was up to the challenge and reached for the door handle.  The slippery dish fell out of my hands with no problem smashing to the floor - broccoli casserole and broken pottery are now all over, right down into the floor heating vent and onto a floor rug.  I spend the next :30 cleaning while the kids eat – taking the long way around to the front door to get in and out of the house as the back is totally blocked by the mess.  At lease my boys had their first unsupervised experience in grilling chicken.  First load of laundry is Laura’s clothes from being sick and floor rug.

Jackson is to have his first experience putting Cailin to bed as Laura groans from the other room while I go off to swimming for Evan.  I come back late, after 9, only to be told by Jackson that our dog Buddy has thrown up as he was eating rabbit droppings in the back yard – and I thought our dog was smart.  Second load of laundry goes in the washer, no time to do dishes.

Thankfully, at swimming, I read Renovation of the Heart.  One of Willard’s points was that we sin because we are sinners.  It isn’t that we just happened to do one bad thing, but that we are bad – it comes from who we are.  I can tell you that some of the thoughts that went through my mind and attitudes I had through the evening proved that point very well.  I did not blow up, I did not swear, everything looked okay on the outside.  But my spiritual reality was not what it should be because I am not who I should be.  Perhaps God refined me through a sick wife, rabbit dropping eating dog, and huge kitchen mess more than 2.5 Bible studies and 5 praise choruses.  That is spiritual formation, God wants to point us to who we are on the inside so he can remake and remove and reform.  Am I totally surrendered to God, seeking him above all else - my own pleasure, status or ease?  Did I clean and drive kids and all that remembering that God plans my days, that God was in control or was I thinking of all the things I would rather and should be doing instead?  When nobody sees, do I live to bring glory to God even in the midst of frustrating circumstances?

Getting Mad, Jealous, or Upset with your Spouse and Numbers 5

My wife read these words to me from Numbers 5 early this morning as we both took some time in God’s Word.  This may just be the most unusual passage to write a devotional on yet – for me anyway.  It goes against our western sensibilities.

“Then the LORD said to Moses,  “Speak to the Israelites and say to them: ‘If a man’s wife goes astray and is unfaithful to him by sleeping with another man, and this is hidden from her husband and her impurity is undetected (since there is no witness against her and she has not been caught in the act),  and if feelings of jealousy come over her husband and he suspects his wife and she is impure — or if he is jealous and suspects her even though she is not impure —  then he is to take his wife to the priest. He must also take an offering of a tenth of an ephah of barley flour on her behalf. He must not pour oil on it or put incense on it, because it is a grain offering for jealousy, a reminder offering to draw attention to guilt.” …

The passage goes on for some time to describe a ritual that is meant to bring the matter to conclusion for both parties, proving guilt or innocence.  It is a protection for the accused and the accuser.  If the woman is not guilty the jealous guy need to put the jealousy behind him and move on, the whole community will know of his false accusation and he will be more careful in the future.  If guilty, a curse is pronounced on the unfaithful spouse and the man is vindicated.

My wife and I talked about the passage, and she pointed out the implications for our understanding of emotion.  Look how seriously God takes jealousy, there is a good chance it is pointing to the truth.  There is no brushing aside the feeling without a thorough analysis.  At the same time, there is room to prove the emotion and the man wrong – emotion can show the truth but does not necessarily show it.  There is also resolution, there is not to be a stewing, an incessant dripping, a holding on to doubt.  The matter and the emotion is to be confronted and dealt with right away in the strongest terms.

Kind of an unorthodox and strange passage to find truth about emotion but there it is.  A few simple truths shine through clearly, especially as we work to build strong marriages and relationships:

1) Confront what seem to be hard and even dangerous emotions head on, do not sit and stew.

2) Involve your spouse and even your community when dealing with them.

3) Both parties need to be ready to either find truth in the emotion, or if it does not line up with the facts, to forgive and move on.

These are the steps that build relationships.  Pushing down hard emotions, holding onto negative feelings, or letting them out violently without taking steps toward a final resolution are all bad ideas.  If we learn to handle hard emotions in a relationship well, that will go a long way toward building a great relationship.

A note from Deb - Today ... handling today!

Today is the eve of an anniversary.  Today is tough; tomorrow is tougher. 

 

Today is the eve of the death of my son, four years ago.  Some friends came by yesterday and asked if I was okay, did I want to be alone this weekend, how was I doing ... you know, "how do you feel, deb, about all this stuff?"

 

My wonderful husband sent me a note from John Eldridge's daily devotional, The Ransomed Heart.  Interesting... it is titled "The Loss of Everything that Mattered"  ... dated ... today.

 

Today I have been "emoting" ... that is a clinical term for crying , showing high level of emotion at the drop of a hat for no foreseen reason.  Heck, I hear a song, see a child, hear a skateboard and the emotions flow.

 

Matthew Elliott ponders via Twitter ... "If love was not emotional at its core, Paul could never have written 1 Cor 13 - greatest actions imaginable are not necessarily love."  ... dated ... today.

 

So emotion, feelings, love, joy, sadness, crying, laughing ... how do we handle this in these tough times?  One tear at a time, one friend at a time, one smile at a time, and with the grace of God, God's loving emotion flowing all over us.

 

 

From the Ransomed Heart ...

 

The Loss of Everything That Mattered
04/30/2009

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We shall not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. (T. S. Eliot)

Look, I am making all things new! (Jesus of Nazareth)

See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone. Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come. (Song 2:11–12)

I was walking in the woods and fields behind our house one evening four months after Brent’s death. My heart was so aware of the loss—not only of Brent, but in some ways, of everything that mattered. I knew that one by one, I would lose everyone I cared about and the life I am still seeking. In the east, a full moon was rising, bright and beautiful and enormous as it seems when it is just above the horizon. Toward the west, the clouds were turning peach and pink against a topaz sky. Telling myself to long for eternity feels like telling myself to let go of all I love—forever. It feels like accepting the teaching of Eastern religions, a denial of life and all God created. We lose it all too soon, before we can even begin to live and love. But what if ? What if nature is speaking to us? What if sunrise and sunset tell the tale every day, remembering Eden’s glory, prophesying Eden’s return? What if it shall all be restored? (Desire, J. Eldridge.)